There are often pretty valid reasons why we won’t call you after going out on a date. Some you would accept, and others you wouldn’t, but don’t pretend you do anything differently.
- You missed the signals he was giving off. Men aren’t so good at reading body language, and worse at making a move. If you inadvertently brushed off a kiss because you had a fly in your ear, or thought you heard the doorbell, he may have taken that as rejection.
- You talk too much about yourself. While every date is used as a way of getting to know you, it’s important to breathe too. Oh, and let us get a word in edgewise and have a more even conversation. Two way banter is best.
- You didn’t offer to pay. You wanted equality, so you got it. Most men will pay anyway, but it’s nice for a woman to at least offer. To not offer displays a mean spirit, most men don’t like that.
- He was intimidated. He may have been shy, or you have more spirit than Smirnoff. Men get shy too, if he doesn’t call, he may be scared to, call him.
- The click didn’t happen. Either physically or emotionally. It happens. We meet people all the time, we aren’t going to fall for them all.
- Talking about previous partners. You may be a blank canvas to him, but you don’t really want to keep writing the names of your previous lovers for him to see. It either indicates you still want the ex, or that you’re trying to make him insecure.
- Playing with your cell phone. Don’t use your phone on a date unless you have to. Constant chatting or texting is only going to show him he is only worthy of half your attention.
- Lies. We aren’t always as dumb as we seem. Sometimes we can figure out when we are being lied to. Don’t big yourself up before the meeting, if you talk, be truthful. When you describe yourself don’t lie.
- Vulgarity. Yes, really. We can mix it up with the best of them, but in the locker room or out with buddies, not on a date with a girl. There is a time and a place. Get a few dates down the line first.
- He met someone else or got back with his ex. It happens, it’s nothing personal. Sometimes exes don’t like the idea of their partner having found someone else.
I’m sure there are plenty of other reasons why we wouldn’t call you, and you can probably figure those out for yourself. If he is as keen on you as he seemed, you should get a call within a day or two. If you don’t, call him if you like, but don’t expect miracles.
Don’t take it personally, and don’t let it get you down. It happens, it’s all a game, move on.
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